Don’t Ever Save Anything For a Special Occasion!

At the beginning of this year, I was impacted by the enormous idea (not new) that time plays a larger role in our lives than most of us give credence to. It is as if the inevitable, inexorable drivenness of the state we find ourselves in is too large for comprehension, so time goes unattended, and that is folly indeed.

Truly, in our culture, we are almost obsessed with time: we never seem to have enough of it, can’t explain it, mark it, save it, waste it, bide it, race against it, and we are often confused why others seem to have more of it than we do. How does that work?

I do take some comfort in the fact that St. Augustine, pondering the mystery of time, wrote in his confessions, “If no one asks me, I know; but if any person should require me to tell him, I cannot.”

So, why do we wish for more time? We often want it to go faster or slower depending on…whatever. Maybe these following thoughts can help orient us when so much is anticipated, to “change” as we move forward.

There is a story I recall that brings some of this home. It is about the death of a mate, where the husband shares with his brother-in-law a tissue wrapped package. “This, he said, is not a slip. It is lingerie.” He discarded the tissue and handed the slip to his brother-in-law. It was exquisite; silk, hand made, trimmed in lace. The price tag with an astronomical figure on it, was still attached. The husband then tells how his wife had bought the slip on a trip 8 or 9 years before, and she never wore it. She was saving it for a “special occasion”. Then he said, “I guess this is the occasion.” He took the slip and placed it on the bed with the other clothes they were taking to the mortician. After a pause, the husband turned and said, “Don’t ever save anything for a special occasion. Every day you are alive is a special occasion.”

Maybe we can resist putting off, holding back, or saving anything that would add laughter and luster to our lives, and thus to others, that God has entrusted to us. “Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it.” Proverbs 3:7. 

There is a difference between two theological constructs of time given us in Scripture. One is chronos, which is ordinary time, and the kind of time that sadly often gets our attention. Then there is kairos, which is God’s time. Eternity is not a time concept. It

has nothing to do with time at all, and therefore, it is almost impossible for us to conceive of eternity because we are rooted in time.

I read a quote not too long ago about this subject and it went something like this: “The vast majority of us spend at least half of each waking day in various pastimes that provide no earthly use or satisfaction for anyone – including ourselves.” Often, when I look up from my computer to check the clock, I am astounded at the amount of time that has passed, and how minimal the soul satisfaction is.

I would like to challenge each of us in our own space, to see if we can be “time redeemers” this year and beyond. Or, as Paul says, “Making the most of the time”. Ephesians 5:17.

It is very significant that in Psalm 90, (please take “time” to read Psalm 90) the only Psalm by Moses, God had him write on the subject of “Time”. From forty laid back years of tending sheep, to forty grueling years judging God’s people, Moses had experienced both extremes of time management: none needed, and control
demanded. Moses had gained a perspective of time and life that few others had. In Psalm 90, Moses detailed a godly perspective of time through a number of simple, yet profound thoughts. The title indicates that this is actually a prayer of Moses. (It might be noted here that when we pray, I believe we are, in fact, loving from chronos to kairos, but that is for another missive.)

Moses prays about God’s relation to time in the first four verses, and it might be thought of this way:

1) God exists throughout all ages, as both being there, and as a refuge. v.1. 2) God exists outside of time, pre-existing time, and inhabiting eternity. v. 2. 3) God controls the life spans of men, made from earth and returning to it, v.3. 4) God is not controlled by time, thus He remains ever present, v.4.

Moses talks about our relationship to time, in verses. 5-11. He uses the shortness of our time on earth to drive home the truth that we only have these few moments to redeem. All said, man is finite and governed by time! Moses is so moved by life’s brevity that in verse 12 he says, “So teach us to number our days that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.”

We are (well, I am) a master at wasting time, so here are some ideas about not being mastered by (1 Corinthians 6:12) this time thing, wherein we are imprisoned.

Myth: “If only I had more time.” 

God has given us all the time we need to do what He has designed us to do. Either we are investing in areas where we were not designed to be, or we are wasting the time we have been given.

Myth: “If I only had the time someone else has.” 

This is not fate – we are all equally given 52 weeks each year, with 168 hours each week. The use of time is a decision, not a function of chance. It is hard to realize that 20 minutes redeemed each day would give us three 40-hour weeks each year! Please keep in mind a central truth here, that there is a “time for everything”, yet it takes a steward’s heart to fully enjoy the life, choices, and relationships that God has given us so that we can sit, play, relax, work, eat, sleep, converse, relate, reflect, laugh, and cry, with both freedom and presence.

Myth: “I will make up time” 

Time is a non-renewable resource, a gift we cannot produce or control. We can only manage our lives within it.

Myth: “Time is money” 

These two are not synonymous. Lost wealth can be regained – not so with time! More accurately, time is life…an opportunity to serve God and man from gratitude, and to see this time we have been ‘given’ as the gift it is.

Myth: “Busyness is next to godliness” 

Since the scriptures rebuke slothfulness, we seem to have swung the pendulum to the other extreme. I want to be careful here, but often it seems we somehow think that work will win us the freedom that only grace can provide, and then we are soon caught in a cycle of busyness that can leave our hearts barren. Maybe it would be better said that obedience, the yielding to God’s ways, is next to godliness.

Well, all this is so that we can reflect again on the fact that each of us has been entrusted with a measure of time here under the sun – to bring weight to God’s name, and joy to our hearts. So, “Teach us to number our days, that we may present to God a heart of wisdom”, which will satisfy our souls, and glorify His character. Then our lives will be marked as “a special occasion.”

Tolerate Pain for Growth

“In the world you have trouble But, take courage I have conquered the world.”  Jesus (john 16:33)

          ”Pain plunges like a sword through creation. Suffering is everywhere, unavoidable and never idle.” (Underhill)

We truly live in a pain-phobic culture. How can we embrace the true reality of suffering in ways that are spiritually and psychologically healthy?

Harry Schamburg says: “we can’t prevent the problems of sexual addiction in the church if we don’t change our message from ‘how to feel better now’ to the unpopular biblical theme that ‘the sufferings we now experience are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.’ Paul (Romans 8:18)

I believe that there is a great deal of poor thinking about suffering and the role of pain in life.

“Suffering never saved anybody. Not your suffering. Not mine. Not even Jesus’s suffering saves in and of itself. Rather, it is the way suffering is faced that makes the difference between whether pain, sorrow, difficulty, deprivation, and/or challenge become part of our souls stretching or shrinking!” (R Morris)

Being a counselor, I have listened to many stories of suffering where; one family is sideswiped by the unexpected birth of a child with a catastrophic handicap, drawing them closer together in mutual support. Their hearts are stretched: “It’s changed our expectations about what’s important in life,” the father says. Another couple greets an infant with a lesser handicap with a resistant bitterness: “It’s like our lives were suppose to end up in southern California and we got hijacked to the Arctic Circle!” The couple separates, their marriage relationship too strained to continue.

It’s not our place to judge, we do not know the mystery of their hearts. But we cannot help observing the different outcomes. Those who survive and grow more resilient in times of suffering somehow find inner resources of acceptance, endurance and patience to deal with their trials. Simple acceptance of their limitations leads to quiet thankfulness where they see life as a series of challenges to be faced. Suffering was something to be dealt with, lived through, learned from, and redeemed.

On the other hand, victims see life as a tale of repeated, undeserved woe where chronic complaint is justified.

One stance shrinks our soul while the other surly expands it.  Christians often speak loosely about “redemptive suffering.” I am becoming convinced that there is no such thing in the Christian message. This is not a mere debate over words. I do not believe that suffering itself contains some hidden divine spark. There is nothing in the Gospels to support that Jesus ever deliberately sought suffering, indeed, he seems to do everything possible to relieve it. Christ shows us the way to suffer redemptively.

Making this distinction between Christ’s redemptive way of meeting suffering and suffering itself is a crucial one for psychological health and spiritual formation toward wholeness.

“There is an ancient, dark, masochistic undercurrent in some spirituality that sees some sort of spiritual power in pain itself.” (R Morris)

Beliefs throughout history have tied this belief to getting the attention of the gods’. (See I Kings 18:28). Whatever such ideology encourages in behavior, “sharing in Christ’s sufferings” is not about self-inflicted pain. We share in Christ’s sufferings when we participate in his way of meeting suffering and it’s sources, as we pursue, with him, the incarnation of the dream of the Kingdom.

How did Christ do this? And why is this part of the Christian journey so confusing? In Hebrews 12:2, it says that Jesus “endured the cross”… How? “For the joy set before him”…. Because he was rooted in goodness deeper than the suffering, so even in the midst of suffering he was deeply anchored in the goodness of God.  I believe this was Jesus’ secret of facing life in this wild, wonderful, and terribly difficult world… and ours to follow! Grounded in such goodness we can face any adversity, drawing on the Grace of a world larger than the suffering.

The New Testament Gamble

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Thoughts About The “Gospel” We Teach!

     “The devil hath the power to assume a pleasing shape.” -William Shakespeare, Hamlet

 As I have mused about this question that we are focusing on, I believe that it will aid the reader if they know what meaning I am assuming with certain terms, (really only one, the ‘Gospel’). After looking and reading some variety of sources and then checking all 99 references in the NASB 1995 (New Testament only), my definition of the gospel is this, Jesus. Now what I mean by this is, I believe, that the relational aspect of this message/truth is bound up essentially in the call to relate (if you will) directly with/to the Christ. How this takes place is as unique as each individual person.

In a recent review of a book by Lauren Winner, Girl Meets God, the author tells of reading Lewis’s  Mere Christianity in high school. She said she really didn’t like it. “One of the reasons spiritual memoir has been popular throughout the last decade is that there are a lot of people who aren’t asking the Enlightenment questions that the more standard apologetics texts like Mere Christianity strive to answer. Having Lewis, however brilliantly, explain the logic and rationality of Christianity didn’t speak to me where I lived.” She continues to reflect “Christians have, for a very long time, lived very much as Enlightenment people. We talk about knowing God through our minds. In fact, I think Christian tradition offers something much richer than that.”

Since the claims of Jesus are startling, the focus of personalness /relationalness seems to be the stumbling block for most throughout the last 2000 years. Christianity is inherently communal/relational. The Body of Christ isn’t language that lends itself to individualism. We seem to want to contain this “Gospel” and domesticate it/him. This I believe is what drives the entire concept of religion, and essentially sets the Christian message starkly apart. Jesus came (into this world) to give life. This life is the core message of the “Gospel”, that Jesus is the guarantor of eternal life. In contrast to this, is the driving piece of all religion.  That is, it strives to somehow escape this world by earning / figuring out / laboring , in order to get out of here (find eternal life) or descend into some form of escape/despair. Buried in the midst of this is the exclusive claim that causes so much difficulty when the “Gospel” is presented/broached. It is with this in mind that I would like to discuss the whole concept of tolerance as it relates to the promo.

Paired with Girl Meets God is another small book written by a friend of mine, Daniel Taylor, Is God Intolerant?  Here, Taylor challenges us to think hard through this very contemporary issue. Tolerance is seen as one of the few universally commended values in our society. One of those values is the autonomy of the individual. My individual judgments and behaviors should not be suppressed in the name of something higher, because there is nothing higher. Being autonomous, my responsibility is to maximize my potential, without harming others. Furthermore, this all is in keeping with a third contemporary value—diversity. In a world where there are countless different cultures, all expressing different values, and attitudes and behaviors, it is not only necessary that we be tolerant, but it is morally incumbent upon us to celebrate those differences and all that diversity. To do any less is to be intolerant.

Context is everything when it comes to questions of tolerance and intolerance. And the single most important thing to understand about the context in which the current tolerance debate takes place, is the concept of relativism. Relativism is the view that all truth claims are rooted in opinion, not in fact or the nature of things. If I say, “This is true or this is wrong” I am stating a personal opinion. My opinion has been formed by my society and my personal experience. The result has authority for me, for the moment at least, but no necessary authority for anyone else. Relativism is related to but not the same as pluralism. Pluralism is based on the clearly observable fact that there are many different views and values and practices in this world. Pluralism is an observation, not an evaluation. Relativism absolutizes pluralism. It takes the fact of diversity of outlooks – pluralism—and draws the illegitimate and illogical conclusion that because there are many views, no one of them is better than any other. From the clear fact that we cannot agree on what is true, it wrongly deduces that there is therefore no truth—only opinions. Maybe best stated: “Everything is right somewhere and nothing is right everywhere.”

A handy working definition of tolerance is “putting up with the objectionable.”  Central in that statement is the necessary fact of moral judgment. If by “tolerant”, someone means a healthy notion of tolerance as a willingness to get along , then I want to be tolerant, in fact, I want to affirm most of the diversity in the world, especially since I believe most of it was created by God. If by tolerant, however, one means unable or unwilling to make moral judgments or to believe in truth, then I must decline to be tolerant. This diseased understanding of tolerance is as dangerous as a diseased kind of intolerance, perhaps more so.

There are three relational applications of this, I believe.

First, the relationship between God and humanity, where God does not affirm us in our sin, nor is he indifferent to our sin. He loves us despite our sin.

 Second, there is the relationship between believers. The goal of this relationship is captured in the word shalom. It is a word whose concept is nothing less than God’s vision for his entire creation, especially as it manifests itself in human well-being: individual, interpersonal, and social. Shalom appears more than 250 times in the Old Testament and many more times in its Greek counterpart in the New Testament.  A shortened definition is peace that comes from everything being right in the world, each thing and person in its proper place doing that which it was created to do. (Of course, if you do not believe there is such a thing as “proper” or “created” then you will not believe in or seek shalom.) Understanding shalom provides a paradigm for understanding how Christians should conduct themselves regarding present-day calls for tolerance.

The third relationship is between believers and the larger world. Tolerance in the New Testament is more often a question of Christians needing to get along with each other, than it is a question of how believers relate to a pagan culture. God’s love is the starting point. It’s the master theme of creation and no amount of sin and brokenness can erase it. There is nothing weak about God’s love and nothing harsh about his justice.

The bible establishes love, not tolerance as the standard by which we relate to all people–both within and without the community of believers. See Romans 5:8. An intolerant God would destroy us in our sin. A tolerant God would merely put up with our sin. A loving God dies for our sin.

There are many telling biblical story examples of how this might work in our everyday lives. Zacchaeus, in Luke 19:1-9, or being a neighbor in Luke 10:30-37.

As so often in the bible, we are called on to hold two different but complementary ideas in tension together. This is but one example. The dual commands, you must love the lord your God with all your heart, soul, strength and mind. And love your neighbor as yourself. Too often these commands are separated and distorted. “Love the lord your God” is used as a rationale for condemning people for their sinfulness, and “love your neighbor” is distorted into a call for accepting sinful behavior. In one case, love is used as an excuse for condemning, in the other as an excuse for enabling. It is instructive that we find ourselves turning to stories to understand what the bible has to say about love and tolerance and righteousness. Stories move us away from theory to the everyday world in which we must live. So look at John 8, where we see one of the most enlightening stories about God’s attitude toward tolerance. In short Jesus does not dismiss her sin, nor does he dismiss her!

“Speak the truth in love” (Eph 4:15) Here is where we find the first casualty of relativistic tolerance is truth. The first casualty of legalistic morality is love. The one who can hold onto both at the same time is a true follower of Jesus, truly in relationship.

What we know for certain is that we must be loving (read relationship), and that is a far greater challenge than being tolerant, with far greater dangers and rewards. Our calling is not to be popular but to be witnesses to the truth to a society that profoundly doubts there is any such thing and is disgusted by anyone suggesting he or she knows what the truth might be.

We must avoid the twin errors of arrogant, authoritarian condemnation on the one hand, and relativistic moral paralysis on the other. Between these lies a third way: loving faithfulness. We are called to live the Gospel as well as to proclaim it, Jesus has provided us the model and the possibility of relationship: Neither do I condemn you – Go and sin no more.






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